The
Reflective Listening Exercise
FMM’s signature skill for increased emotional resilience.
All developmental research indicates that emotions play a foundational role in the development of resilience or problematic sexual behaviors. ~ Honest Talk
“The nervous system’s expectation is a metaphor for safety.” ~ Porges, Polyvagel Theory
At the core of unwanted behavior is the inability to process negative emotions. The Reflective Listening (RL) Exercise is a key tool in recovery. Applying the RL exercise gives the intellectual system an opportunity to choose long term gain over short term relief. Learn this vital skill for emotional resilience and healthy relationships!
Please read the instructions below to get the most out of the exercise.
Watch this Reflective Listening (RL) Exercise video multiple times.
Download, save and print documents listed below and keep them in a folder/binder for easy access. Use the RL exercise daily, not only to express feelings and process pain, but to give insight and next steps for better spiritual stewardship. The RL sentence structure is helpful to initiate daily journaling. We suggest that you make multiple copies of the single worksheets (Basic and Advanced) and to keep the supporting documents (Boundaries Define Us and Seven Desires of Every Heart) close by your journaling and or devotional area.
- Reflective Listening Advanced Instructions & Single Worksheet
- Reflective Listening BASIC
- Boundaries Define Us – Cloud and Townsend
- Seven Desires of Every Heart – Mark and Debra Laaser
- Feelings Table and Intensifiers
NOTE: In early 2024, FMM updated the Advanced Reflective Listening Instructions and Single worksheet, and recorded a sample using this new tool. We will share this updated video as soon as it becomes available along with a “package” of videos to support learning emotional resilience. Those videos will be broken down as follows:
- Emotions & Addiction,”What’s the big deal?”: Addiction is an Intimacy Disorder; Steps to the Development of Anxiety; the Intellectual and Emotional System
- The Basic Reflective Listening Worksheet sample: Unmet Needs and the Seven Desires of Every Heart
- Emotional Resilience: God’s Relational Design; Post Traumatic Growth; Reflection, Relationships & Resilience; Changing Relational Anxiety Patterns; Begin with the End in Mind
- The Updated Advanced Reflective Listening Worksheet sample
We are super excited to share FMM’s signature skill with you!! Hats off to you for taking steps toward emotional resilience!
Check out FMM’s Reflective Listening Workshops to enhance your emotional processing skills! Please give us your feedback: RL Survey