Reflective Listening Exercise
FMM’s signature skill for increased emotional resilience.
All developmental research indicates that emotions play a foundational role in the development of resilience or problematic sexual behaviors. ~ Honest Talk
“The nervous system’s expectation is a metaphor for safety.” ~ Porges, Polyvagel Theory
At the core of unwanted behavior is the inability to process negative emotions. The Reflective Listening (RL) Exercise is a key tool in recovery. Applying the RL exercise gives the intellectual system an opportunity to choose long term gain over short term relief. Learn this vital skill for emotional resilience and healthy relationships!
Please read the instructions below to get the most out of the exercise.
Watch this Reflective Listening (RL) Exercise video multiple times.
Download, save and print documents listed below and keep them in a folder/binder for easy access. Use the RL exercise daily, not only to express feelings and process pain, but to give insight and next steps for better spiritual stewardship. The RL sentence structure is helpful to initiate daily journaling. We suggest that you make multiple copies of the single worksheets (Basic and Advanced) and to keep the supporting documents (Boundaries Define Us and Seven Desires of Every Heart) close by your journaling and or devotional area.
- Reflective Listening Advanced Instructions & Single Worksheet
- Reflective Listening BASIC
- Boundaries Define Us – Cloud and Townsend
- Seven Desires of Every Heart – Mark and Debra Laaser
- Feelings Table and Intensifiers
We are super excited to share FMM’s signature skill with you!! Hats off to you for taking steps toward emotional resilience!
Check out FMM’s Reflective Listening Workshops to enhance your emotional processing skills!