Men’s Recovery from Sexual Addiction

Welcome to Your Christian Recovery Journey

With all sincerity, we are delighted to walk alongside you and watch the Lord work in your life; there is so much hope for renewal! At Forgiven Much Ministries, we provide Christ-centered support for men struggling with pornography addiction and unwanted sexual behaviors. Our approach combines biblical principles with proven recovery strategies to address both the symptoms and root causes of sexual addiction.

On this page are important links that we will revisit many times. Please do not let this long list overwhelm you—just take it one step at a time, knowing that freedom is possible through Christ.

Getting Started: Men’s Porn Addiction Recovery

Essential Recovery Materials

• Please order your workbook – LIFE Recovery Guide for Addictive Behaviors (including 16 presentations of sexual addiction). We recommend purchasing the hardcopy vs ebook available on Amazon.
• LIFE Recovery Model (LRM) Sample Pack – P1A1

Assessment Tools for Sexual Addiction

• Free SAST – This Sexual Addiction Screening Test is the longstanding tool used and created by the clinical community. Please download the PDF, complete, scan and/or take a photo and send to SueMoore@ForgivenMuchMinistries.org.
• USB Assessment – This Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Assessment will prove valuable as a tool to escalate your recovery as it provides vital family of origin information regardless of the type of unwanted behaviors present. The USB Assessment is $29 and the information is well worth the expense. Once completed, please forward your results to SueMoore@ForgivenMuchMinistries.org for assistance translating your assessment and developing your recovery plan next steps.

Group Prerequisite

As a prerequisite to joining the group, please read and forward a signed or e-signed copy of FMM’s Group Covenant to your facilitator. Please complete the Men’s Coping Methods Inventory linked below and begin viewing the videos assigned on your Onboarding checklist provided by your facilitator. We recommend multiple views of the LRM and Reflective Listening (RL) Exercise videos and printing the RL PDFs linked on its webpage.

**Your assignment for each video: Be prepared to share three points that stood out to you and how this information impacts you personally.

After readings, we share insights from our homework. During the second hour, we share a Reflective Listening exercise (either for that day or week) on a situation or relationship that is currently challenging us. This helps to both practice processing and to “Get Current” with one another. We close the group with our Top Lines (what we are shooting for that week), Bottom Lines (what we’re staying away from), and Sobriety; those definitions are in the back of the workbook. All of this will be modeled, and we give lots of grace in case you are uncomfortable with the “newness.”

5 Minute Daily Check-in Calls: Each day, you’ll connect with a partner for a quick check-in call using the Basic Reflective Listening format. These short conversations help you practice emotional resilience, grow comfortable being truly known, and develop supportive friendships. By building trust during everyday moments, you’ll be ready to lean on one another when life feels heavy.  Daily Call Card

For Married Group Members: Please note that submitting a completed Couples Relationship Commitment Agreement at the time of group entry and a Sexual Abstinence Period & Marital Contract (implemented during Principle 4 Assignment 1) are vital for creating a safe environment for personal recovery growth and restoring healthy intimacy in marriages. Please read this article from the Laasers regarding the Sexual Abstinence Contract.  Check out FANOS, a couple’s daily communication exercise to rebuild trust and intimacy.

Please save this webpage link, if you print it as a PDF the hyperlinks should remain live. Refer to it whenever you are led. We pray that you tap into the rich resources the Lord has made available to you. Again, we couldn’t be more delighted about connecting you with the group. Let us know if we can help in any way.

Christian Porn Addiction Recovery Resources

Core Recovery Video Series

Core Issue Addiction Recovery Video Library – There are complete instructions for watching the videos to understand the format and layout of the videos for optimal use. The Neurobiology of Addiction videos help us understand the origin of anxiety underlying problematic behaviors. Below are basic video recommendations beneficial to expedite your pornography addiction recovery:

1. IDentity Agreement – This video gives a spiritual perspective of a person’s life, a road map so to speak. We’ll start by thinking about our identity from God’s perspective. Then we’ll see Satan’s influence through the impact of our double-mindedness, our interpretation of experiences through our neurological, physical and emotional lens. Whose perspective will we chose to believe? Sometimes we align with God’s perspective and sometimes Satan’s. You get to choose your identity agreement.
2. 00.1 Core Issue Addiction Recovery (CIAR) Introductory Video – Explains the differences in recovery models.
3. 00.3 LRM – L.I.F.E. Recovery Model – Will outline what can be expected on the trauma model/core issue addiction recovery journey to wholeness and 00.4 LRM Evaluation Tool
4. 00.5 Reflective Listening Exercise – This exercise is vital to recovery and will be reinforced throughout your journey to obtain healthy intimacy and emotional resilience skills. Please see the Reflective Listening instructions, single worksheet, boundaries, desires and emotions with intensifiers in the link provided along with other communication resources.
5. 05 Cycle of Addiction (full video) – Becoming familiar with the patterns and terms listed here will help expedite your process. Reviewing this video is helpful as the Cycle of Addiction is covered in your workbook. Please see the Cycle of Addiction and Recovery pdf in the attachments.
6. 12 Cycle of Recovery – Dr. Laaser’s Cycle of Recovery offers a refreshing contrast to the Cycle of Addiction. Both cycles illustrate behavioral progression, but Laaser’s work in the Cycle of Recovery outlines the non-comprisable elements necessary to live in freedom every day.

Additional Recovery Materials

• LIFE Grieving Guide – This workbook-style guide contains 12 lessons addressing the grief process that’s essential in recovery from pornography and sexual addiction.
• FMM Main Website – Please review the ministry’s website; it’s pretty cool to see how the Lord has poured into this work over the years (i.e., problematic sexual behaviors, sex trafficking/demand reduction and God’s Design for Sexual Intimacy etc.).

Second Tuesday (2T) Workshops – From February through November, you have access to monthly online learning opportunities. FMM’s signature skill is the Reflective Listening Exercise for increased emotional resilience. All developmental research indicates that emotions play a foundational role in either resilience or problematic sexual behaviors. You will learn to express feelings and process pain, allowing the intellectual system to choose for long-term gain vs short-term relief. Navigating through negative emotions is paramount to managing unwanted sexual behaviors.

Our new Reflective Listening video series “breaks down” the learning process into segments for enhanced understanding. Most importantly, viewers now have a sample video of the Advanced RL worksheet to guide them through each step of the exercise, allowing them to pause and review their own worksheet. The RL Workshops guide participants through Advanced RL Implementation. Registration required.

Gospel-Centered Sexuality Courses

GCS Wednesdays – Winter/Spring and Summer/Fall semesters, or monthly classes February – November: FMM offers Gospel Centered Sexuality (GCS), its newest curriculum for the body of Christ. Raising up the next generation to stand for Gospel centered sexuality requires that this generation be equipped to confidently articulate their stance on God’s design for sexuality (supported by science) that enables them to not only provide responses beyond the “the bible says so” but “why” God designed it so. This goes beyond the basic male/female stance to God’s relational design, presence and wholeness and sets the stage for healthy sexual development. All this starts with a conversation – yours.

Advanced Training Opportunities

Associate Study Certificate (ASC) – The vision of the Affiliate Program is to replicate and equip for service. The ASC offers both self-paced and small group cohorts with Q & A discussions of CIAR training content broken down into weekly sessions. Classes start in January and run through October with 8 weeks of breaks in the spring and summer. Choose between a 12 noon or 7pm class. Check out these ASC Student Comments.

Recommended Reading

Recommended Reading for Men’s Sexual Addiction Recovery – Please see this categorized Recommended Reading page full of resources relevant to addiction, trauma, recovery, sexual intimacy and wholeness. https://forgivenmuchministries.org/resources/